On Intimacy

On Intimacy

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Lately, I have been contemplating on the concept of Intimacy.

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What does this word mean to you?

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There is rarely one answer only, rather answers which resonate in a given moment (of Life), that moment we have named the “Now”.

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As I navigate into the lands of my contemplations, I connect to the somatic sensations dancing in my body, allowing potential answers to emerge, and here come few words.

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I confess connecting quite deeply to the « Intimacy » word….a profound and felt sense of warmth, comfort, and safety arises.

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Intimacy reveals Itself.

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A revelation towards Truth?

A revelation towards Authenticity?

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Being able to be intimate with (my)self and others, connects to my/the ability to connect with my/the Life essence, in its natural flow of the Now.

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You can then be the person you are, naturally.

You as you.

You as now.

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The one You that is joyful, the one You that is scared, the one You that is silly, the one You that is wounded, the one You that is crazy brave, the one You that struggles with confidence, etc.

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Suddenly, we can be everything, every feeling, every dimension of our being. Wow, I love writing these specific words in that order. ❤️ .

Intimacy becomes a shapeless space holder for everything, for the Truth of Being to be welcomed & treasured.

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Intimacy = Truth of Being?

Probably.

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Oh dears, that sensing texture of Being intimate, with oneself, a beloved, the collective, in spaces of authentic Being/Truth, indulged in the soothing nature of connectors (body, conversations, alchemy, etc). Don’t we all long for this, all the time?

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The definition of intimacy expands.

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To open to such intimate “spaces”, it does seem however, that a form of radical honesty is a critical ingredient to cultivate. That honesty will strip away many of our conditioning and masks. And, that can be hard! But the beauty of honesty is that it keeps on opening us to our vulnerability, another key ingredient to create Intimacy.

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Intimacy is one of my most favorite reasons to be alive.

I just don’t mean the physical aspect it can lead to. I mean the level of honesty and compassion that leads to the point of where I can trust myself or somebody else with my entire body, and all its layers. The space where we breathe in connection and breathe out in revelation. That feeling that makes you feel as full as it gets you bare. A kind of spiritual suppleness that leaves indelible imprints.

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That makes me feel so alive. 😍

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I often refer to the word “Intimacy”in my yoga classes…”get intimate with your bones” I could say for example, as bones are formidable doorways to comfort & inner safety…Yet, it is not easy to get intimate with oneself, even in a yoga practice…As a yoga teacher, I observe it, with immense love, so very often.

Yes, it is not easy, as we have been mainly taught to comply, to conform or simply “survive” using various coping mechanisms…in the process, most of us may have lost touch with some authentic feelings. We then dissociate, we disconnect.

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So, we can easily hide behind poses, as a subconscious way to bypass that intimate (and scary!) experience that holds so many unknowns and mysteries. However, if we do open ourselves to the unconditioned movement, our practice of Yoga can become such a liberating connector and exploration.

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Intimacy, also in a yoga practice, is about our embodied capacity to «meet» and to «move with» what is here and now, as it is, like that intimate dance we can have with somebody at times. When I finally sensed that possibility in my body, in my yoga practice, I knew that my practice of «connection» with everything else would change too.

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I have to say, for a long while, I only referred to the word «intimacy» for my sensual experiences….realising later how empty some of these could become if not held in a space where I could show up as I was in that moment….Enough pretending and performing. As we are right now. As simple as that. As natural as that. No fancy poses or positions (!).

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Intimacy in a relationship is not about whoever will touch your skin (as I thought for a long while), but it is the person who can be with you with your «what is», consistently, in a space of bonding, acceptance and sincere curiosity. As we offer the same possibility to another person, intimacy reveals itself.

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Intimacy is a universal connector, a space holder of Truth, that connects yourself to you, to a beloved, or to others.

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You are safe.

I am safe.

The texture of that connection feels like home.

It is HOME.

You are home with yourself, you are home with a beloved, with others.

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I bow to all the intimate spaces we create, with oneself, with a beloved, and with others. May they expand, with humanity, authentically. May these spaces of connection bring greater ease and freedom in our lives.

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Intimately yours. 🌬✨☀️🤍